This simple piece of advice really amazed me. Recently in a class with our Shaykh, Shaykh Sulayman al-Ruhaylee in Masjid al-Nabawi, the Shaykh was asked a question regarding wudoo. The questioner asked something along the lines of: “My mother is ill and finds it difficult to perform wudoo..” until the end of the question regarding taharah.
The shaykh paused for a bit and before he answered the actual question relating to wudoo’ he said: When talking about your parents and their illness’, you should always ask Allaah to cure them like saying: “My mother (shafahullah – may Allaah cure her) is ill and finds it hard to perform wudoo..” or something similar to that. Even if you are simply asking a question.
I was really impressed with the way the shaykh dealt with the question by giving Naseehah to the questioner before eventually answering the mas’alah. It just goes to show the importance of actually sitting at the feet of scholars – not just to learn knowledge from them but to also learn manners.
Mālik ibn Anas, (rh) said, “Learn good manners before seeking knowledge.
وقال مالك بن أنس رحمه الله تَعَلَّمِ الأَدَبَ قَبْلَ أَنْ تَتَعَلَّمَ الْعِلْمَ